‘Move forward not move on from grief’
“They have gone to a better place”.
“At least you are not alone, you have other family members and friends, keep yourself busy and you will get over it”
“It is the way it was meant to be ”
“…….(avoidance, lack of acknowledgment of your loss)…”
These are some of the phrases (and/or silence/avoidance) we hear when someone who is close to us passes us. Sometimes these phrases stab your heart and worsen the wound that already is weeping.
How about if someone says…
“They must have meant a lot to you, can you share with me your memories? What were the best moments you spent together?”. …
Surface your fears on your way to freedom
“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
It is easy to live our life without having to face our what scares us because we are so used to our familiar comforts. However when there is so much uncertainty around us, specially now with the current pandemic, at times we do not have a choice but to start covering what we are going through. …
Appreciate, generosity and abundance
Less self service is all about realising that it is not possible to given in completely self less manner because we are operating in this physical world and we do need to have a healthy ego to function. We as humans do have the capacity to give, yet often we choose not to. We choose we engage in a hoarding behaviour rather than giving away in charity to the needy. This is an invitation for you to develop a change in perspective of how giving others is actually a source of giving yourself. Hence it is about less self rather than self less. We are so analytical in nature so it is important to give within the boundaries of what we have as we cannot pour out of an empty cup. Nevertheless we have more than we can handle. …
Reframing a ‘negative pregnancy test’ to ‘an invitation to flow’
These four words, ‘ a negative pregnancy test’, is what stand out when we are trying for a baby and
I’m going to invite you to first sit with the results, acknowledge it with the emotions that come up and then replace these four words ‘ a negative pregnancy test’ with ‘an invitation to flow’.
“The mind is not a vessel to be filled, but a fire to be kindled.” …
If tears could build a stairway
And memories were a lane
I would walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again
No farewell words were spoken
These words resonate closely with those of us who have experienced the loss of a baby. There are actually no words to express our goodbyes yet if we did get an opportunity to say the last words before the physical departure of our loved one what would those be? It is an interesting reflection and we all have our own ways to deal with this. Seeing an empty crib, clothes of our loved one not being worn for whom they were intended for and uncelebrated birthdates are just some of the aspects we need to deal with it. There are a lot of things that we have no control over so this is an invitation to take some time out and explore three common emotions that we navigate through after baby loss. We all go through guilt, anger and fear at different levels of intensities. …
“Perfect balance is like a razor’s edge, it can be found only in Self.”
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
In life, we often feel lost, stuck, and in the quagmire of procrastination that keeps pulling us backward rather than propelling us forward. It seems we have lost balance and focus in life. Being in the middle of the pandemic, there is so much uncertainty and fear around us. It is challenging to maintain calm and composure leave alone plan for the future. Today is the 22nd of September is known as the autumn equinox which is when the sun is exactly above the equator. This means that the day and night are equal lengths. Every day nature flourishes and shares its wisdom. Today is a wonderful invitation to be courageous and manifest the intention of balance. Give yourself permission to nurture with awareness and focus as it is all about equilibrium. …
“The moon is a loyal companion. It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light. The moon understands what it means to be human. Uncertain. Alone. Cratered by imperfections.”
We just need to glance outside in the sky to witness the presence of the moon. As the days pass we realise how the moon changes yet it is always there whether it is visible to us or not. The above quote by Mafi helps us understand that how the moon changes its form yet is loyal and is always there. It helps us to identify ourselves with the moon and use it as inner guide to navigate the landscape of life. The above picture makes us realise that there are times in our lives when we will be navigating through turbulent tides. However through connection to nature, we can begin to notice patterns in the cycle of our own life. Rather than being victims of the storms of life, we can be empower ourselves to steer our course of action. We can prepare ourselves against the adverse circumstances by tuning into the warning signs that are shared by nature. …
One looks back with appreciation to the brilliant teachers, but with gratitude to those who touched our human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child.
We as humans have that unique ability which is the power of discernment to choice between right and wrong. This propels us to move forward, to strive to be successful and the best version of ourself. We often tend to be on auto pilot mode and engage in herd behaviour which sometimes defeats the whole process. …